Obviously the decision (when you have a choice, believe me this is not aimed to upset those parents of children that were not a conscious decision) to have a child is not an easy one, and is not made is haste.
I’ve been thinking about our ‘trying to fool ourselves into thinking of this as a lovely surprise as opposed to a well thought out planned process’ approach and while It is much less stressful, I’m really not able to fool myself, or anyone else when my days are taken up by patrolling and googling every baby related thing known to man.
It’s so strange when you realise how much you are going to have to sacrifice, how much needs to change, how much less time you will have, and most of all, when you realise that you are ready and willing to do all of that if it means sharing your life with another. Letting your heart walk outside of your body as they say.
How do you know when you are really ready? How do you really know it’s time, that you are prepared and understand what effect this decision will have on your life?
I have come to the conclusion that you are ready when you accept that you can never be prepared, or fully understand. When you have read so many books, and forums, and blogs that if this were a degree you would graduate with high distinctions, when you have realised that it isn’t all ‘ooh cute baby’ that the bond may not come straight away, breastfeeding might be hard, you might not get one of those good babies that sleeps through the night. I think after everything, if you are still excited, and excited ABOUT the hard stuff... then you are on your way.
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